Had a C-Section? Nowadays Women Can’t Even Handle a Little Pain

New Delhi: For many women, giving birth via C-section often brings not just physical challenges but also undue judgment from others. One mother, Shafali Gupta (name changed), shared her personal experience of facing social criticism after her daughter’s delivery.

The Pressure of ‘Normal’ Delivery
Shafali recalls, “It feels as if childbirth has turned into a race. If someone delivers naturally, she’s celebrated as a ‘winner,’ but if a baby comes via surgery, the mother is instantly deemed weak.” When Shafali’s daughter was born via C-section, instead of congratulating her or asking about her well-being, people focused on one question: ‘How did the delivery go? Normal or C-section?’ Upon hearing it was a C-section, relatives immediately judged, saying, “Women nowadays can’t even tolerate pain.” Even two years later, Shafali says the judgment still haunts her.

Navigating Family Expectations During Pregnancy
Shafali and her husband, Rohit, first shared the news of her pregnancy when she was just four months along. Along with joy, advice from family poured in—from what to eat to how household chores might affect the baby. Some relatives even suggested starting physical chores to ensure a natural delivery. Despite the unsolicited advice, Shafali and Rohit decided to follow their doctor’s guidance.

Breech Baby Leads to C-Section
During her third trimester, a routine check-up revealed that the baby was in a breech position—a risky situation for natural birth. The doctor recommended an immediate C-section to ensure the baby’s safety. Prioritizing the child’s well-being, Shafali and Rohit agreed. To avoid unnecessary stress from relatives, they did not disclose the C-section plan in advance.

Facing Criticism After Delivery
After the surgery, while recovering in her room, Shafali recalls, “As soon as my daughter was born, everyone came to see her, but amidst all the happiness, my mother-in-law commented, ‘Oh, had a C-section… nowadays women can’t even handle a little pain.’ My aunt immediately echoed this. I and Rohit tried to explain, but no one was willing to listen.” The constant remarks disturbed her sleep and caused considerable stress.

Seeking Help and Recovery
Feeling mentally exhausted and unable to fully focus on her newborn, Shafali sought professional guidance. Experts recommended meditation and relaxation exercises, which helped improve her sleep and mental state. Gradually, she learned to ignore unsolicited judgments and focus on her well-being. Today, she leads a happy, peaceful life with her daughter.

Note: This story has been shared by Shafali Gupta, a homemaker (name changed). Readers are encouraged to share their experiences at nbtlifestyle@timesinternet.in; all identities will be kept confidential.