Expert Raises Concerns on Parenting Autistic Children: “Therapy Alone Won’t Fix a Child”

Parenting children with autism often comes with unique challenges, and well-intentioned efforts may sometimes miss the mark. Clinical psychologist and autism expert Atul Madan recently shared critical advice for parents, emphasizing that simply enrolling a child in therapy repeatedly is not enough to ensure progress.

Avoid Doing Everything for the Child
In an Instagram video, Madan cautioned parents against performing tasks on behalf of their child, such as breaking small pieces of bread and feeding them directly. “Please allow your child to try eating on their own. Therapy alone cannot replace hands-on guidance and support from parents,” he stressed.

Teach Through Gentle Support
Madan recommends a patient, “loving firmness” approach. If a child takes longer—say 20–25 minutes instead of 5—to eat, parents should sit with them, guide their hands, and help them learn gradually. The goal is to let the child gain independence while providing supportive supervision.

Hunger and Motivation Matter
Parents often say, “The child just won’t do it.” Madan explains that hunger itself can motivate a child to attempt tasks. First, observe whether the child can break bread independently. Once mastered, encourage them to pair bread with a side dish, showing them the proper technique with gentle guidance.

Therapists Play a Supportive Role
While therapy is important, Madan emphasizes that parents are the primary teachers. Therapists can guide and suggest strategies, but day-to-day skills—like eating independently—require consistent parental involvement and patience.

Step-by-Step Learning
Once a child can combine bread with a side dish, the next step is learning to use utensils. Parents should teach this gradually, ensuring the child eventually understands how to serve themselves from shared dishes and eat independently. This hands-on practice is essential for developing practical life skills.

Practical Parenting Over Reliance on Therapy
Madan reminds parents that therapy should complement—not replace—the practical, daily guidance they provide. Gradual, consistent teaching and allowing children to learn at their own pace are key to helping autistic children develop essential life skills.

Disclaimer: The information in this article is based on an Instagram reel. Navbharat Times does not take responsibility for its accuracy or authenticity.